BOOK 224: COME AS YOU ARE: EMILY NAGOSKI

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An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works—based on groundbreaking research and brain science—that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy.

Researchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a “pink pill” for women to function like Viagra does for men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never exist—but as a result of the research that’s gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women’s sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all.

The first lesson in this essential, transformative book by Dr. Emily Nagoski is that every woman has her own unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. So we never need to judge ourselves based on others’ experiences. Because women vary, and that’s normal.

Second lesson: sex happens in a context. And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a woman’s arousal, desire, and orgasm.

Cutting-edge research across multiple disciplines tells us that the most important factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life, is not what you do in bed or how you do it, but how you feel about it. Which means that stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it. Once you understand these factors, and how to influence them, you can create for yourself better sex and more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible.

And Emily Nagoski can prove it.

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MY VERDICT:

I liked a lot about this book. The way that Emily Nagoski explains things makes them very easy to understand. I especially liked the garden analogies that were used and important things to remember were always repeated and I felt like I learnt a lot in this way. I just didn’t find the book gripping. And I know that might sound weird to you because it’s a non-fiction book – is it meant to be gripping? – well in my mind – yes. I want to be so engrossed in the lessons and the things I’m learning that I can’t wait to learn more and I can’t put it down – I’m afraid I didn’t feel this way with this book – I felt like I was reading it for homework in some places. I can’t put my finger on why – but I’ve heard lots of great reviews and a lot of people love the book – but some, like me, find it a little repetitive. That’s not to say I would not recommend this book – despite the pitfalls there are some things in it that people really need to know - men, women, everyone about bodies and the truth behind some myths that lots of people believe and circulate.